Preparing For Your First Anal Sex
Anal douching isn't something we talk about much in our community and we aren't given many opportunities to learn about it. My high school coach taught sex ed. He said Keep it in your pants, boys. Simply being clean enough for sex is another important concept rarely talked about, despite the fact that many people have questions about sexual hygiene , and a number of receptive sexual partners who prefer to not engage in the act without using an enema or at least taking a shower first.
Whether it's a new formula of anal lube engineered to create just the right amount of friction and slippage, or a butt plug that lets you operate it remotely, there's always a fresh take on an old classic being released at your local sex shop or favorite online store that's worthy of putting in her (or your) butthole.
In my opinion, based upon my own body, the anus and rectum are meant to be stroked, not pounded. Another option, either on its own or in addition to enemas, is to use wipes before starting your anal pleasures to make sure that the external area is nice and clean.
The reason so many people never want to try anal sex with their partner is because they think it will be messy, unsexy or even unsafe Follow these guidelines during your anal sex preparation and you will never have to worry about it being messy or unsexy.
Similar techniques can be used to arouse your partners anus the same way you would stimulate the penis or vagina. 61% feel more comfortable or ‘cleaner' if they used an anal cleanser post-sex. Probably more than all the preparations you'll have to do before having anal sex, communicating with your partner is the most important of it all.
For those who still insist on doing something—anything—up there before sex, Dr. Goldstein said it's best to douche using plain water and just a tiny bit of pressure from an enema bulb But buyer beware. When she goes to her friend Peter for advice, he gives her a few tips on sex positions — before admitting that no woman ever will enjoy butt action.
Finally, some people think condoms aren't necessary if both partners are HIV-positive. Feeling clean is one of the keys to being relaxed and at ease while having anal sex. Once you've finished your first round of anal sex, go to the bathroom and clean up. If he came inside you without a condom, you'll probably need to evacuate your rectum.
Couples who engage in anal intercourse need to know that it is one of the ways that HIV can be spread sexually. During penetration, if the bottom's penis is stimulated, he is likely to experience the bulbocavernosus reflex, or the involuntary contraction of the anal sphincters.
Be careful, too, that the toy is not larger than your partner's penis anal toy or strap-on — and if you're new to anal, start small and work your way up. Opt for softer latex toys that are much less likely to cause trauma than ones made with more rigid materials.
Also note that the tissues lining our rectums are more susceptible to certain disease organisms, which means anal intercourse carries a slightly higher risk of sexually transmitted infection , says Dennis J. Fortenberry , Ph.D., a sex researcher and professor of pediatrics at the Indiana University School of Medicine.